Tori Uncensored

I started this blog writing about impostor syndrome, how it shows up, how it shapes us, and how I was learning to own my worth. I thought that once I had the right systems in place, the doubt would quiet down.

But lately, it’s crept back in. Not loudly. Just enough to make me second-guess myself at work. To feel like I’m not doing enough, or not doing it well enough. And the hardest part? I’ve built structure. I’ve written about planning, routines, and frameworks that help me feel more aligned. So why do I still feel off?

Because structure doesn’t protect you from emotion. It supports you through it.

When the Doubt Creeps Back

Even with a plan, I still have days where I can’t focus, where I stare at a task list and feel like I’m not capable of doing any of it, and that’s when the old voice returns: “You’re not cut out for this.”

But here’s what I’ve learned: that voice doesn’t mean I’m failing. It means I’m cycling. I started Tori Uncensored with the belief that life is full of changes, challenges, and moments of growth.

The Reminder That Helped Me Reframe

I’ve been reflecting on a change model I use in my work—SARAH—which gently reminds us that we all move through stages of Shock, Anger, Resistance, Acceptance, and Healing, and each time we do, we move through them a little faster.

I’ll share more about SARAH in a future post, but for now, it helped me name what was happening: this isn’t failure, it’s just one stage in motion. I’ve been here before,  and I won’t stay here.

What I Do When the Noise Gets Loud

Instead of overhauling everything, I reset in small, quiet ways:

• ✅ I name what I’m feeling
• ✅ I shrink the scope
• ✅ I return to something familiar
• ✅ I let the day be what it is – not what I planned

I wrote recently about what to do when a day doesn’t go to plan. But this is the layer underneath that, when it’s not just the day, but you that feels off.

The Truth I’m Learning to Hold

I’m sharing this because I don’t want to pretend that structure makes you immune to self-doubt. It doesn’t. But it does give you something to hold onto while you move through it.

Impostor syndrome hasn’t disappeared. But I’ve stopped waiting for it to. I’ve started recognising it, naming it, and walking with it, until it fades again.

💬 Your Turn

Have you ever found yourself in a moment where the tools didn’t stop the wobble, but helped you move through it?

What do your resets look like when your structure feels shaky?

Drop your thoughts in the comments or come back to this post on the days when doubt feels louder than direction.