Tori Uncensored

Introduction

Many of us have felt the weight of impostor syndrome that nagging doubt that whispers, “Why should anyone listen to me? Can I really add value?” I’m in the midst of experiencing it now.

I’ve asked myself these questions over and over, but I’ve come to a simple conclusion: I won’t know the answer until I start. What I can offer is my lived experience, the lessons I’ve learned, and my perspective on topics I’m passionate about.

What Is Impostor Syndrome?

According to the Oxford Dictionary, impostor syndrome is:

“The persistent inability to believe that one’s success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one’s own efforts or skills.”

It’s the feeling that you’re not good enough, that you’ll be “found out,” that you don’t truly belong—despite evidence to the contrary.

My First Experience with Impostor Syndrome

The first time I truly felt like an impostor was after returning to work following nine months of maternity leave. Suddenly, I felt lost. Did I still know what I was doing? Was I adding any value?

I was working reduced hours, and the doubts crept in:

• They managed without me—do they even need me now?
• How can I keep up when I’m not working full-time?
• What if they realise I’m not meeting the same standards I used to?

This period forced me to recognise the delicate balancing act that most working parents face. Before children, personal time was unlimited—I could work late, dive into projects, and separate my professional and personal life effortlessly. Now, it was a complicated juggling act.

Finding Acceptance Through Balance

What ultimately helped me overcome impostor syndrome was acceptance recognising that I wasn’t the same person I was before, and that was okay.

I adjusted my internal expectations and reminded myself:

• I am good at my job.
• I don’t need to be involved in everything.
• I need to focus on what truly matters and ignore the noise.

With this shift in mindset, I became more efficient and intentional with my efforts. I stopped chasing perfection and started embracing the reality that growth comes from adapting—not from being flawless.

Spotting the Signs & Moving Forward

Since that first experience, I’ve encountered impostor syndrome many times. The difference now? I can recognise the signs early and confront them head-on.

Here are some indicators you might be experiencing it:

• Feeling incapable of completing tasks
• Lacking confidence in your output
• Doubting yourself when starting something new

How do I push past it?

✅ Remind myself that I’ve done this before—I’m capable.

✅ Accept that perfection isn’t the goal—it’s about progress.

✅ Recognise that everyone is on a journey, constantly learning.

Your Thoughts?

Have you experienced impostor syndrome? How did you tackle it? I’d love to hear your stories and tips, so join the conversation in the comments!